From Sacred Singleness by Leslie Ludy (p.107-109):
"Precious sisters, let us never profane the sacred sacrifice of our King by seeking the benefits of Christ without the cross! Just as He gave up His life, so we are called to give up ours. It doesn't matter what makes us happy or what makes us feel good. Yes, the way is narrow and rocky and causes us pain, but that's the very road Jesus walked - and may it be our greatest privilege and joy to follow in His steps.As I've said before, on the other side of sacrifice is aways joy. Jesus obtained the reward of His suffering after He had conquered sin and death, and sat down at the right hand of His Father. That's His pattern. First suffering - then reward. As 1 Peter 5:10 says, 'May the God of all grace, who called us to His eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after you have suffered a while, perfect, establish, strengthen, and settle you' (emphasis added). And Paul reminds us, 'God is not unjust to forget your work and labour of love' (Hebrews 6:10). when we lay our all on the altar, no matter how painful the process is, we can be confident that there are unspeakable treasures of joy awaiting us on the other side of the suffering...No suffering that we embrace in obedience to Jesus Christ ever ends in misery and death. That wasn't Jesus' story, and it won't be our story when we follow in His steps. God specializes in happily ever after. Just read the end of the Bible and you'll see what I mean...No matter what our situation in life, we should not go around being 'ticked off' about it. Rather, God tells us in 1 Thessalonians 5:18, 'In everything give thaks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.' And in Philippians 2:14. 'Do all things without complaining and disputing.' If we are feeling angry, unhappy, miserable, or ticked off about being single (or any other circumstance in life), we shouldn't merely admit it and call it honesty. Rather, we should admit it and call it what it is - sin. We should ask God to forgive us and cleanse us by the power of His blood. And we should lean upon His grace to turn and walk another way, joyfully embracing whatever path God has placed on us, just like Jesus, who endured the cross...In Authentic Beauty I wrote about Corrie ten Boom being challenged by God to give thanks for the fleas that inflicted her prison cell. She told her sister, 'Betsy, there is no way that even God can make me thankful for a flea.' But once she began rejoicing in the fleas, she soon found that these annoying little insects truly were a gift from God. The guards were so disgusted by them that they avoided going to check the sisters' prison cell every night. Betsy and Corrie were free to read their Bible, pray, sing and witness to other prisoners - something that would have been impossible had the guards come to check their cell. It was like a little taste of heaven on earth, and it would not have been possible without the fleas."
What a challenge this is! Of course, it makes more sense when read in the context of the whole book, but I was really challenged through it today to stop complaining so much about the trials of life but rather to look to Christ who endured the cross for me! Praying that this would help you too, dear brother or sister in Christ!